From Reactive to Clear: What to Do in Hard Moments

You Know What to Say... So Why Can't You Say it?

Using Conscious Communication When It's Really Hard!

 

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CHAT COMMENTS

00:18:12    Lori. Name five words to describe the emotional climate of your home.

00:19:24    Kathi S:    Hostile, cold, uncaring, unconnected

00:20:18    Sunnie Mortimer:    I do not have children, I am a holistic nurse with children and parents who come to me for stress management

00:21:01    Kathi S:    I have the ressources but am being blocked by my partner

00:21:22    Kim Allen:    Sunny , energy,  peaceful

00:21:33    SG:    Reacted to Sunny , energy,  pea... with "👏"

00:25:23    Kathi S:    What if the other person doesn’t wanna do the repair work?

00:26:00    Kathi S:    Exactly, don’t feel supported

00:27:47    Amy:    got it.

00:31:17    Kathi S:    funny, loving, one-sided, challenging, close

00:31:56    Amy:    Reacted to "funny, loving, one-s..." with 💜

00:32:13    Kathi S:    He‘s only 3. it’s more about his needs and wishes than mine

00:32:35    Kim Allen:    Questionable,  emotional, share

00:33:18    Kathi S:    That’s exactly what I’m not seeing in neither of my sons. I think their following their father’s example.

00:33:38    Amy:    Interestingly, this was a harder exercise for me than I thought when you first described it.

00:35:00    Kim Allen:    Listen

00:35:49    Kathi S:    They’re 3 and nearly 10

00:40:42    Saumya Gill:    I do!

00:41:04    Amy:    Did more when mine were little but am learning to be less controlling and more understanding?

00:41:08    Kim Allen:    👍

00:41:51    Saumya Gill:    It really is a terrible need to control probably stemming from some anxiety about something else (behavior/unsure about something else)

00:42:00    Amy:    Replying to "Did more when mine w..."


Oops!  Omit the ? - not a question.😀

00:44:02    Amy:    I am better about worry but "avoid" more than I used to. Ouch!

00:44:26    Lesli:    self empathy

00:47:01    Saumya Gill:    100% when you are around that family dynamics and conditioning its hard to break apart

00:48:42    Lesli:    Correct.  It is a tool I use when I am not supported by others.

00:49:57    Amy:    Yes, conscious parenting style  baffles my parents and in-laws (ages 70's and 80s).  Children were to be seen and not heard in their generation. They all have a controlling, authoritative parenting style that doesn't translate well for grandparenting.

00:50:19    Saumya Gill:    100% agree with Amy

00:51:31    Saumya Gill:    its hard to sit with the distress but I read somewhere that distress intolerance is the way to grow!

00:54:46    Laurel Klassen:    Can I see these 5 steps as a list? I think I’ve lost which one we’re on

00:55:06    Amy:    What should one do if the breathing exercise heightens anxious feelings?

00:56:46    Laurel Klassen:    Thank you Lori.

01:01:07    Saumya Gill:    That's an eye opener...I feel bad when I do expect them to be more well regulated. 🙁

01:04:26    Amy:    1) Prayer, 2) exercise, 3)a trusting friend who knows me and my relationship with family members.

01:08:04    Amy:    yes

01:12:02    Amy:    yes, makes sense

01:16:07    Saumya Gill:    very helpful :)

01:16:17    Amy:    Great session. Thank you, Lori!

01:16:52    Amy:    yes

01:17:47    Kim Allen:    Thank you

01:21:23    Lesli:    Thank you!

01:25:26    Amanda (she/her/hers):    So many great nuggets.  Thank you

01:25:49    Sunnie Mortimer:    Thank you Lori! I appreciate your work!

01:25:50    Amy:    Reacted to "Thank you Lori! I ap..." with ❤️